I often find myself in an identity crisis. :) Yeah? Really! I told Kent the first year we were married that I was having feelings I hadn't had since I was 13 or 14. You all remember some of those awkward "trying-to-figure-out-yourself" moments of early adolescence. You still feel like a kid, but you also sense this desire to be more independent and grown-up. You love your parents but you don't want to be them. You're not sure how other people view you, and frankly, you're not sure how you view yourself.
Well, I find myself feeling those things in relation to being a parent of teenagers. Just over five years ago, I was chaperoning teen groups, having teen girls over to my house for fun, taking a teen girl out every now and then to talk, and...to be honest...I felt good about myself. I don't think it was in a proud way. But rather, I felt happy about my relationships with the teen girls in my life.
Then suddenly, I'm wondering, "Who am I?" in regard to the teen girls in my life, my daughters. They are no different than any other teen girl, but my own position, role, and relationship have totally changed...throwing me for a loop!! I'm no longer have that sense of happiness about how I'm handling things with them (at least much of the time). I often feel defensive or timid, quick to speak or quick to avoid needed confrontation, unable to enjoy fun moments together or wishing they could see how much fun I used to have.
So...what do you ladies remember from your growing up years that really helped your relationship with your moms? What were some key things that she did or didn't do that helped your relationship to grow in friendship and openness? How did your mom (or you as a mom of teen girls) handle disagreements, attitudes, feelings, etc? Looking forward to hearing any good stuff you want to share!